These are some tips to key into what is going on in men's minds either before, during or after a first date. This is to hopefully answer those annoying questions that go through your mind when your waiting and wondering if he's ever going to call you or more importantly...if "He's just not that into you".
1) During the date, he keeps the conversation to small talk. He doesn't want to open up about his family or friends. Examples...if most of the conversation revolves around the weather or current events, is he getting to really know you?
2) Does he ask questions about you? Instead of the small talk, does he ask about your family, friends, work etc. If so...this shows that he's using this time to learn everything he can about you you. This also is a good way to examine his communication skills. Does he listen to your answers and keep the conversation going or does the "glazed, I wish I was fishing" look come over his face? If so...keep your answers short and move onto another topic because chances are he only heard "blah blah, blah blah blah"
3) Eye contact. Now this isn't always an indicator. It completely depends on the type of personality of the person. If he is very social and and outgoing type of personality then yes, eye contact is crucial. However if their personality is more shy and reserved then don't worry about eye contact on the first meeting. They may just be very nervous and it will take some time for them to open up and let their guard down.
4) After the first date if he doesn't call or at least make some sort of contact within 48 hours, it's time to move on. So many women fall into the "What if trap" as I like to call it. "Maybe he forgot my number? Maybe he's busy with work?" I've even heard the excuse "Maybe he lost his phone?" In this day of modern technology, there is no excuse as to why they can't contact you in some way; call, text, email, even social media. Ask yourself...do you really want to be with someone who doesn't have the common courtesy to take 5 minutes to thank you for going out with them, and that they would like to see you again? After all...think what our ancestors went through as far as courting goes. There were no phones or computers. Men would travel all day, rain or shine, to get to the lady they wanted to court. Is a 5 minute text really too much to ask for?
5) Don't be afraid to trust your instinct, it's within us for a reason. Yes this is not always fail proof, but if you truly listen to yourself it will lead you in the right direction. Your heart will tell you if he is being genuine.
~Remember...don't be afraid to ask yourself the tough questions. For instance, if he sounds too perfect chances are he might be feeding you a line. If he sounds too successful, too rich, too smart, chances are it just might be too fake. We all know that no one is perfect. We all have our strengths and weakness's. If he isn't willing to show you some of his shortcomings, then maybe it is all for show. When dating...try to keep in mind that we aren't looking for "Mr. Perfect", we are looking for "Mr. Perfect for me".
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