The Game Changer

Is the old saying "He doesn't want it until he can't have it" really ring true? Give the man a little competition and the whole game changes. Why do we always have to play games in a relationship? Do we ever really outgrow games as a a child or does the game just change as we get older?

I was taught from an early age that if you ever really want to keep a man interested...never let them know how interested you really are! I thought at that young age, that's crazy! When I fall in love someday, I will shower him with my love all day everyday...just like in the fairytale! Well as sad as it say, if you ever want a man to run as fast as he can for the hills ladies, that's the fastest way to make them do it. It seems weird to think that being the "perfect" dotting girlfriend or wife can actually make a man find you unattractive but it's true. The simple truth is what a man really wants is THE HUNT! Even if he already "has" you...the last thing you ever want him to know is exactly that. The sad truth is that if the game or the chase ever stops...the game is in fact over!

That is why no matter how long you have been married, dating or in a relationship...the chase can never end. Call it primal instinct for the man to chase his prey or his mate, or that the boy inside of him really never grows up. Once a man feels like he has won, or has conquered the game, sadly the game becomes obsolete or at the least uninteresting and boring. My advise is no matter what you do in life, whether it's relationships, career or anything you do...NEVER BECOME UNINTERESTING! Always find a way to keep a man on his toes and even wondering what you are doing. By all means be honest and truthful in your relationship, but being honest doesn't mean being an open book! 

In fact use a book as a great example...if you already know the ending to a book are you likely to keep reading it anyways? Most likely not! There always needs to be a level of intrigue or mystery in life and especially in relationships! That's what keeps you yearning for more and striving for the best in life. Well the same goes in our relationships. We have to have mystery and curiosity with the people we surround ourselves with. After all...nothing in life worth having comes easy, and if it is too easy or accessible we really don't want it anyways!